Relationships: A Game Where Nobody Knows The Rules...

Are you ready? Because today is a big one relationships!
Oh yes the one thing we think we know all about but really haven't a clue.  This isn't a bashing from a miserable single guy, (which technically I am!) but there are some things that need to be addressed. The things we all think but never say.

So lets cut to the chase. I love being in a relationship, I love having someone to spoil. That someone that whenever you think about them you can't stop smiling. Its a great thing I love being romantic. But people always seem to forget that there is work involved. And there is, so let us take a moment to dissect these fallacies.

Love at First Sight
To put it bluntly there is no such thing. (unless you are a friend of mine  who wants to marry every girl he looks at!) What you get is lust at first sight, love is something that happens over time. Funnily enough thats why its called falling in love, because it happens the over time it isn't instant. Where you get confused is that when that special moment happens and you realise you love them, you forget ever not loving them. (the same is applied to breaking up, you feel like you can never not love them but over time you forget why you did).


I Will Never Hurt You
If anyone and I mean anyone says this to you immediately kick them in the shin and tell them to grow up! People hurt each other it happens. 9 times out of 10 you probably don't mean to. People also argue, get over it! Things get said in the heat of the moment and you hurt the feelings of the person you love, So what? If the love is there it shouldn't matter, you go away; calm down; and then realise that argument was meaningless. If you can't then perhaps the relationship isn't right.

Making Them Suffer
Whats the f**king point? Listen very carefully and you might save yourself some tears, If your partner has the balls to apologise after an argument, have the balls to accept it. In one relationship it all went tits up because we were both too stubborn to say sorry first, and then when one of us did instead of accepting it, we would be a dick about it!

Having Their Cake and Eating It
If you catch your partner cheating, DON'T give them another chance. You only make yourself look stupid. The great line "its the biggest mistake I ever made" is bullsh*t. If they truly loved you they wouldn't risk what you have, the fact that they did proves how little they thought of you, and they certainly don't deserve your love.

Honesty
It really is the best policy. Again to lean on an old relationship, I had a girlfriend who wouldn't tell me when she was upset or if something was wrong. I Hated the not knowing, you want to help but they shut you out.  Then I got angry for being in the dark, which leads to arguments etc etc. You don't have spill your guts out but just the outline to help make your partner understand will go along way. Again if you can't trust them with your feelings perhaps the relationship isn't right.

So I know we could go so much deeper but I can't sit here all day writing this crap! Its pretty much common sense. Love is a game of give and take. No relationship is perfect or easy but why should it be?  Easy is boring. Working to make something special like a great love story should be a challenge.
Instead of wasting time chasing a pot of gold, sit down and enjoy the rainbow.....